Dealing with identity
Who am I? It's a question that we've all asked ourselves at some point in our lives. It's a question that becomes even more relevant as we enter adulthood, where we're expected to have a clear sense of our identity. But the truth is, our identities are complex and ever-changing. And that's perfectly okay.
The concept of identity is mind-blowingly complex. There are an infinite number of qualifiers a person can choose to identify with. Some people might identify as bi, pan, queer, a woman, sister, daughter, girlfriend, INFJ, a student of life, an activist, an optimist, a hopeless romantic, and even an adult. But the labels we choose are entirely up to us.
As we trudge through life, we encounter an endless amount of different labels, and that can be both scary and exciting. Some labels or identifiers will be like gifts, while others may not feel quite right. But the great thing about identity is that you get to pick which words stick, and you even get to decide what those words mean. Your bi, pan, or queer might be different than someone else's, and that's okay. You're also allowed to alter your definition as you gain life experience. It's your identity, and you have the power.
Staying curious is another important aspect of navigating a fluid identity as we enter adulthood. One of the best ways to learn about our identities is by learning about others' identities. College provides an environment where this is easier, but once you leave, things can get a little trickier. However, the internet is full of resources to help you keep growing and learning, from TED talks to feminist blogging circles. You can also attend local workshops and talks about gender and race, or join book clubs to broaden your horizons.
Exploration is also key. Different parts of your identity will come out in different situations, so try lots of things. Immerse yourself in new clubs, activities, sports, or even different mindsets. Trying something new, even if it's just for a week, can teach you important lessons about yourself and your place in the world.
Lastly, be at peace with the fact that there is no such thing as being fully grown up. Figuring out what it means to be an adult can be challenging, but it's important to remember that it's a journey, not a destination. As we learn, grow, and change, so does the way we identify. So don't worry if you ever feel overwhelmed with all these labels and qualifiers. Remember, only you have power over your identity. You pick your label, you decide its definition, and it's a fun and thrilling journey doing so.
In conclusion, navigating a fluid identity as we enter adulthood can be complex and challenging, but it's also an exciting journey of self-discovery. By understanding that only we have power over our identity, staying curious, exploring new things, and being at peace with the fact that we're never fully grown up, we can learn to embrace our ever-changing selves and live fulfilling lives.
